Open thread: One product that works

This spring, when I noticed that a friend was suddenly sporting the same long, dark, curly eyelashes as her son (boys always have the prettiest lashes) she swore it was due to this eyelash serum from Sephora [Grande Cosmetics GrandeLASH™ - MD Lash Enhancing Serum, if the link doesn’t work for you.] I’m not a product junkie but I decided to give it a try as a pandemic boredom experiment. Lo and behold, months later, friends stop me mid-sentence to comment on how long my lashes are, or to ask me if I’m wearing fake ones, or if I’m using Latisse.

Now, do your own research—I would skip the serum if you have sensitive skin or eye issues—but for me, it’s one of those rare products that made me think with satisfaction, “Well that worked exactly as well as I hoped it would!” And you know how unusual that feeling can be.

What is one product of late—beauty, kitchen, household, personal, etc., at any price point—that so efficiently and thoroughly does what you want that you want to tell the world about it?

This issue is not sponsored and I’m not sure why I chose to write that in italics. Try new products at your own risk. And also my kid took the photo below, which is…not touched up. Here I quickly curled my lashes and applied one coat of mascara.

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How bad are the pandemic puppies?

And other thoughts and advice from a witchy veterinarian

Last month I published the first half of an interview I did with my old friend, veterinarian Jeni Goedken. Here’s the second half of our interview, which continues to cover some of the ethical dilemmas of pet ownership. Last time we discussed euthanasia, and this week it is about what happens when you must rehome a pet. Rehoming pets should never be taken lightly and without due diligence, but, at the same time, it is a thing that happens for various reasons, and not all approaches are the same. (Comments for this post are off.)

She and I also go on to talk about much lighter stuff like whether COVID pets are messes, natural pet food, uncontrollable cat peeing, requests for COVID treatment, and how often your vet really thinks you should brush your pet’s teeth.

Sometimes people need to re-home a pet for reasons like aggression, or a death in the family and it’s not possible to adopt the animal/s, or there is an emergency at home. I know it depends on where you live, but what options from your perspective are the best mix of reputable and humane?

That’s a loaded question and I wish there was a perfect answer. I did shelter work for five years combined in my career, so I’m well versed in being in the pit of shelters. I personally—and most veterinarians that are moms—have basically a zero-tolerance for aggression, even if it’s provoked aggression.

The thing is, if you’re trying to re-home an animal that you don’t trust in your home, don’t do it, period, because that animal still has that issue. It’s one thing if it’s going to a no-kids home and the adults clearly know that are getting this dog or cat knows the issue that triggered it. Like, “I have a one year old and he’s never snapped at me, but he snapped at a one year old,” and the adults don’t have kids and are willing to take it on maybe, directly. But trying to put that pet into the shelter system, I would not do that. Honestly, from this angle, I would consider euthanasia before putting that pet into a shelter system. I worked at a no-kill shelter. Trying to re-home an animal with known aggression triggers is an ethical dilemma for shelters. I stand on the line of, “I’m not going to re-home an animal if I don’t trust it in my home with my family.” The reason I say that is that animal is taking up a cage as you’re trying to match it to that sweet spot 30-year-old, dual-income, no-kids perfect couple that is willing to take on an animal that has a known aggression issue.

Even if you’re like, “Well, why don’t you save it until that couple comes by,” well, it’s taking up a cage. The reality is how many animals are we going to have to turn down? The biggest issue with no-kill is the reality is, if I can’t adopt some of these animals out because we are no-kill by our credence and our donations, that animal’s going to live in that kennel or cage until he dies, and for me, that was a huge issue.

If it’s a non-aggression issue, the best thing to do is make calls, call your vet, call in a few shelters, put out that message. The thing is, trying to get a call back and a match, in reality, is very hard. So I am not against using NextDoor and Facebook and other resources like that. But the major thing is being honest about the reason because there is possibly liability if you try to pass off an animal that has known aggression and something happens in that house and it wasn’t disclosed.

The fact of the matter is once you lose trust in that animal in your home, I think that’s a quality of life issue for you as well as your pet. And yes, you can go through trainers and behaviorists, but sometimes there are just dogs that are born with mental issues that no amount of drugs or training would ever make me feel comfortable with that pet in my home. Reaching out across the internet is a good thing if your other option is setting him free or even trying to euthanize him. Just because, for example, you have to move, that has nothing to do with aggression. And as much as us vets hate it, it happens. Let your vet know because you wouldn’t believe how many people we know who are willing to take it.

Now, that becomes an issue and you have people who are animals hoarders that are like, “I’ll take it!” And you’re like, “Now I’m relegating this cat to cat hell.” So if you reach out on the internet and are like, “Can I come meet you?” I think it would be the next prudent step if you have someone saying I’m willing to take him, to know who that person is, know what the situation is beforehand handing him off. But that’s a tough one because in reality, as a vet, I’m like, “Oh, just go to a shelter.” I’m saying by the book, that’s what you say. But really, in reality, it’s way harder than that. Trying your best is what you can do. And that’s all you can do, right?

How messed-up, behavior-wise, are the pets that people adopted during COVID, or is it not that bad?

It’s actually not as bad as we all thought it was going to be. When all these shelters were empty, everyone’s like, “Great!” But the realist vet in me thought when everyone goes back to work, they’re going to be filled to capacity. Believe it or not, that’s not happening as much. We actually saw more behavioral changes in cats with people being home more. A lot of cats were starting to go off and peeing all over the place. And the only difference was people were home more. But right now, we’re not having an influx of people giving up. Now, as far as the biggest thing of course is separation anxiety. I haven’t been back to general medicine since [this conversation], but just talking to other friends, it’s not as bad as we anticipated.

People want to know about going back to work when their new dog knew nothing but everyone at home. The main things to remember are just kind of like dropping your kids off at preschool for the first day. You’ve got a high needs kid so you have to practice the routine and go around the school and say, “This is your new school. What are you going to do?” If that’s the case with your dog and it’s a high-needs dog, then you’re going to have to practice by small periods away from home. And if you don’t trust your dog, make sure they’re in a confined space. So a lot of people that didn’t crate train might have to start crate training now. Make the floor a small bathroom or something that you can trust your pet in. Trying to associate good things with you leaving is also key too.

Find a high reward system that they only get when you leave the house such as a Kong with peanut butter and blueberries in it, but then freeze it. Then when you leave, drop that for the dog (the frozenness will keep it occupied for longer and it won’t glop up all over your rugs.) But they should only get that when you leave. It has to be something to focus on a long time. If you’re trying to crate train or train your dog to be in a smaller area while you figure this out, doing high reward like that, or just feeding them in that area like, “Okay, now you’re getting fed in this crate.” With my dog, he was pre-COVID, but he was fresh off the plane from China so had a completely unknown history. I honestly took a week off of work and he was attached to me the whole time. And I hand fed him kibble as his reward for sitting and going to the crate and stuff.

I formed that bond with, “You listen to me and you get a piece of kibble.” So I went all in originally. But it’s easier said than done. There are some training methods that I recommend for restructuring your dog. One author’s name is Dr. Sophia Yin. She is a veterinarian that’s also a behaviorist, and she’s phenomenal. I trained my dog based on her methods. But you’re going to have to invest some time in it. If your dogs know nothing but this for a year and a half, expecting him to shift within two days, it’s not going to happen.

As far as medicating, because a lot of people are like, “Oh, can we medicate him?” just for general anxiety, medications aren’t great for dogs and cats for just general anxiety. Most of our anxiety drugs are just to knock the dog out and aren’t actually taking away the anxiety: he’s just too tired. So the actual effectiveness of putting the dog on Prozac or something like that to try to train him usually hasn’t worked very well at all in my book. Realizing this is going to take time, I think is one of the things people just need to hear. This ain’t going to happen overnight.

Speaking of COVID, how often do you get asked for ivermectin or whatever it’s called and other COVID drugs?

Yeah, I got asked about five times. Three from clients, old clients, and two from Facebook people. one of them asked how many Heartgards they had to eat to get a dose of ivermectin.

No. Are you serious?


I know. I know. I was also getting asked about hydroxychloroquine, and a bunch of other stuff before the vaccine came out. But yeah, people are crazy.

We let our wheaten terrier on the couch and on the chair and all over us even though he picks up all the dirt from the outside. Do you do disgusting things like let the animals go where they shouldn’t? Tell me something gross that you let your pet do to make me feel better.

Oh my God. I’m such a bad pet owner. Here’s the thing: vets are some of the worst because we say all that stuff, just like pediatricians do, but in reality, it’s like, ask your pediatrician, right? “So how much screen time does your kid really get?” The pediatrician is like, “Well, he’s in front of a screen right now, to be honest with you.” So when we go for walks and stuff and he’s off-leash in a field with me (which is also supposed to be a no-no, but whatever) if he smells a dead animal or feces, he will roll in it. And I did not realize this for a long time until I finally looked and said, “Oh, my God, he’s rolling on a dead squirrel.” And then, of course, I freaked out and gave him a bath. And now, it’s like every other day he does it. And I’m like, “Eh.” Sometimes I don’t even, I’ll like take a wet cloth and I’ll be like, “It’s good enough.”

Also, I am very bad and I give him a little bit of whatever we eat at dinner.

Well, you’re not a trainer, you’re a vet. He’s a happy dog.

He’s happy. And that goes along with the fact that I’m going to lose him one day. Like, “He’s going to die anyway. Let him have some steak.”

How much do you really expect people to brush their pets’ teeth?

Ideally, you would brush them every day, ideally twice a day. Let’s be honest. I tell people, “Hey, if you do it once a week, more power to you.” How many times have I brushed my dog’s teeth? Zero times. How many times have I even tried to brush my cat’s teeth? I’ve never tried with a cat. So do not feel bad whatsoever if you don’t brush your dogs or cat’s teeth. They are going to need regular dental cleanings anyways, just like you do, and you brush your teeth twice a day, hopefully.

I know it depends a lot on the animal and the situation, but most of the time, what do you tell folks when they tell you that their cat is peeing everywhere?

First, it needs an exam and at least a urinalysis, if not blood work just to double-check that’s not kidney disease, UTI, anything like that. And then the rule of thumb is a litter box for every cat, plus one. So if you have two cats, you should at least have three litter boxes. Make sure you haven’t changed the litter type or covered it. Some cats actually prefer an uncovered litterbox; some cats prefer covered litter. Make sure you’re cleaning with a pet enzymatic cleaner to make sure that you’re getting the smells out. Plugging in pheromone diffusers can help. It certainly won’t hurt. And honestly, there’s usually a reason, but I would say over half the time, we don’t find the reason. So not knowing the reason is more common than you think.

Medications don’t help the majority of the time. I wish they did. So a lot of it is how much you’re willing to tolerate. Because if someone comes to me with a 13-year-old cat and has tried everything and is peeing around the house and they’re in tears and they’re like, “We can’t take it anymore,” I’ve been on that side of the table that you’re like, what am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to tell them to keep going, even though I don’t have an answer for them? Am I willing to take the cat? So I will tell you this, your veterinarian is just as frustrated with those cases as you are.

What do you feed your dog? And what do you say about natural pet food?

That’s going to depend on what vet you ask, just like what pediatrician you ask about any controversial topic. There are some dogs that I have looked at who were 16, and I was like “Wow, he looks like he’s seven. What have you done with this dog?” And it’s usually with those people yes, they might feed raw or natural, but they’re also taking them for like two-mile runs as well. Most of the time, the lifestyle of that dog combined with some really fancy food that’s better than the crap I put on the table for my kids is probably the answer.

Just feeding natural or fresh food, I personally am not in the camp. I feed my dog Purina. But again, if it makes you feel better, if it makes you feel like that gold star mom, do it. But if you ask your vet what they feed their pet, the vast majority of us will say some sort of big brand.


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When the call is coming from inside the school

The hopes and dreams of sticker charts

We have a call scheduled later today with my son’s first-grade teacher about his behavior plan. I am glad I found the term “spirited” because I’d say that describes him. I think he’s a little bit ahead of the curve academically but also gets bored easily and craves attention so there is a lot of not sitting in his seat, or making Nelson Muntz-like “Haw haw” noises for attention during reading time or simply proclaiming “I’m bored!” during class. Apparently my father was like this when he was a kid which is helpful information because my husband and I don’t possess these personality traits. It has confounded us that someone so charming, so cuddly, such a mama’s boy, could also be so noncompliant at the same time.

Every year we get better at knowing how he ticks, meeting him halfway and being realistic about what works. Coming down on him too hard just gives him a victim complex (“I’m just a bad boy.” OK.) Bitching at him right after school does nothing because the schoolday is so far behind him that it’s meaningless, and it just starts the evening on a rotten note.

What’s been hardest about it for me is not internalizing it and absolutely mortified about it on behalf of the teachers, like what he does makes it seem like I endorse or look past that type of behavior. I have an idea of how hard a teacher’s job is and I hate thinking that my kid made their job harder.

I have just had to start believing it though when teachers tell me that this is truly part of their job. Some teachers are better at speaking “spirited” than others. His current teacher and principal are really great at drawing him out, unlike some past teachers. My least favorite was the preschool teacher who called me from school one day to tell me that he wasn’t behaving. We had never discussed this as some sort of protocol so I was just like “So…am I supposed to yell at him over the phone? Bring him home?” And when she tried to talk to us back then about a behavior plan, she had no ideas for us—just asked for our ideas. (We didn’t know because we weren’t preschool teachers???) When this teacher later tried to add me as a friend on Facebook, that was the fastest “Ignore” I ever hit.

What also has not helped? Posting about my questions to a large FB group full of people that that don’t know me or my kid and promptly diagnosed him with ADHD without meeting him, or suggested a sticker chart like I am BRAND NEW.

What has helped me is talking to teachers about how I feel to be reassured that handling kids like mine is their superpower. But also, talking to other witchy parents about that helpless feeling when their kid causes trouble at school or childcare and they can’t do anything about it in the moment. Somehow things that stress you out become funny, and remind you that wild kids can happen to nice parents. I have a friend who has two boys exactly my boys’ age and her younger son has also been the inspiration behind some phone calls from school/camp about behavior. We still talk about the email we got from camp one year with the subject line “Bathroom incident.” When we get together we laugh about the Bad Boys Club we’re running, and let me tell you, those are big, cathartic laughs.

If you need company, below are some anecdotes from witches whose kids also incurred some notes and phone calls home from school about behavior—followed by some early childhood education expert input on their side of things:

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“My youngest kid threw their shoe at their childcare provider. The teacher asked me to speak to my kid. The next day, I got a call that my kid locked the same teacher in the closet.”

“After a several day visit with my family when my kid was three, she started calling me exclusively by my first name. The preschool teacher found this unnerving and asked if she could try to break her of this habit. I said no, but suspect she tried anyway.”

“The thing that upset me most was when the school called me in because our son had started regressing on potty training, I think because he was having some anxiety. They didn’t want to be cleaning him up. Like, lady, if you don’t think I’m pulling out my hair already over this, or that if I could control his bowels with my mind I would, you’re bananas. And you’re not helping.”

“I was in a rough patch during my son’s infancy and he had one ragged toenail, and his childcare provider cut it herself then scolded me about it.”

“I had a preschool teacher tell me that I gave my kid ‘too much love and comfort’ and that was why he was quick to tears and tantrums when things didn’t go his way. Turns out he had sensory issues that were diagnosed about a year later. I wasn’t too mad about it because 1) she hadn’t spent much time with him yet to see that he responded better to comfort tactics than discipline tactics and 2) what the fuck kind of advice is ‘don’t love your kid so much or comfort him when he’s upset?’ She was totally off on that advice. (Weeks later she came around and was like, ‘He likes to get pats on the head and his back rubbed during nap time... such a funny sweet kid.’)”

“Around the time my kid was one, we were advised to cut back on bottles to encourage more solid food. We advised childcare to give one fewer bottle per day. A few days later they told us it was not working because when other babies put down their bottles, my kid would crawl over and steal them. That was the end of that. We let the kid eat what he wanted.”

“I remember in nursery school, the teacher pulled me aside at pickup and said, ‘We did have an incident today. Your son... ate some Play-Doh.’ Then she just looked at me. I was like, ‘… Okay but literally every kid does that at least once???’ Obviously we weren’t encouraging him at home to eat Play-Doh! I was waiting for her to tell me how they had handled it and what language we could reinforce at home — and I eventually asked her — but it was such a weird approach, you’d think she had an actual bombshell to drop.”

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Now for a bit of teacher/provider perspective. I interviewed Missy Sanchez, Director of Open Door Preschool in Austin and Emily Webb Price, an Evanston-based mom of two boys who owns and operates a home child care provider. I wanted some professional reassurance that kid behavior shit is just part of the game, and to learn what most teachers expect parents can do about it from home.

On how much teachers expect parents to harp on kids at home after a bad day at school/childcare:

Sanchez: Unless it’s something serious or we’ve been having conversations with the parent about and working toward a change in behavior, we say “Leave it at school,” about a lot of stuff. We’ve dealt with it, the consequences have happened; please don’t reinforce the punishment at home or discipline at home. We don’t want to put too much attention on negative behavior.

Price: I don’t think harping on kids later after something has happened is helpful. They’re not going to recall it. As the provider, you need to go into things with a positive attitude and know that parents can’t control what their kids are doing. But, they can be the best at home enforcing the good habits, like with a behavior chart, which works for some kids—and others for whom it’s a complete waste of time. 
 

Some teachers are better at differentiating than others:

Sanchez: Not all teachers are good at being teachers. Not all early childhood educators are good at it. You can see a teacher in the classroom who’s gotten no formal education in training or child development but they know kids. They’re little child whisperers. They can do circle time with a bunch of 3-year kids and they’ve got these kids mesmerized. And then you can see a teacher who has a master’s in child development and you watch them in a classroom and they have no idea what to do. It’s like any field you have to know your subject. You have to understand kids. 

At the same time, I also think it’s important for parents to understand that in most instances, teachers know their kids really well. We spend a lot of time with the kids all day. We know the different personalities, the different temperaments, everybody's special needs — because all kids have them, whether they’re actual diagnosed disabilities. All kids have special needs. All humans! You teach to the individual child so a lot of it is parents just remembering, “This is a partnership.” They’re not telling them how to parent; they’re asking them to be partners in raising social emotional capability human beings. 

How bad to feel when your kid is having accidents at school/childcare:

Sanchez: Kids are going to have accidents. We know as educators if you have a kid who’s potty training in your classroom chances are you’ll have to deal with a couple of accidents per day. You have to understand that kids are going to have accidents and you can’t get upset with your kid if they got home and had two accidents and you can’t get upset at the teacher. They’re potty training. When are they learning to walk, they fall down all the time. There isn’t really a word for the in-between phase of potty training. 

What a parent can do when their kid stinks at resting quietly at naptime:

Price: I’ve been in situations where parents have different expectations, such as, “My kid doesn’t take naps anymore,” or “They don’t take naps because they don’t go to bed for me.” But a short period of that nap time is my time to eat my lunch. But I’ve also had kids that can’t do the quiet time because they are actually more aggressive when they’re tired so if you’re taking that sleep away from them too early it isn’t good for anybody. If they don’t do quiet time they just do quiet rest time. My boys weren’t big nappers. I’d ask, “Is there a story they can listen to? Is there a workbook can they work on that? Can they quietly read?” I’d ask if my son could go to the school office or hang out with the assistant teacher. I know some of the kids used to go to extra tasks with her during naptime. If the parent could talk to the school and say, “Hey is there anybody in the center who he might be able to sit with or stay with during quiet time?” that can help.

What you can actually do to help an educator work with your kid:

Sanchez: It’s communication. A parent sending a teacher a quick email or text that says “I know you had a rough day: I’m here to support you. If there’s anything I need to work on at home I want to partner with you.” Figure out what their love language is. Some teachers are like “I need coffee,” others need chocolate. Some teachers are like, “I just liked to hear once in a while that I’m appreciated.”

Parents expect a lot of communication from the school’s side of things, and that is important, but I think parents forget to communicate with teachers. Everything can change a child’s daily routine at the drop of a hat. Say a parent lets a 4-year-old watch something on the phone on the way to school and the child doesn’t want to stop watching so it becomes a battle and the parents are like, “Bye!” It’s like “Whoah, the kid is not themselves. What happened?” Or a grandparent passes away or the parents get into a big argument. It’s really important to communicate what’s going on on the home front. As adults, we forgot how even the smallest nuances affect a child’s behavior. The only thing teachers really get mad about is not communicating over something that could affect their child’s behavior, or bringing the kids in when they’re sick.

Parents need to have more faith in their kids’ teachers. It’s our job; everybody has crappy days. It doesn’t matter what your job is. Teachers are allowed to have bad days. It can be really stressful. It’s not just one kid at the end of the day. It's about not having enough support.

Price: A lot of times when I tell parents it’s been a rough day, I usually am like, “I think the kid was tired,” or “This happened and this is what caused the behavior: I just want you to know.” A lot of times parents are like, “OK thanks. Is there anything I can do?” That reinforces that they are listening and hearing you out as the provider. At the same time, I do understand that there’s nothing they can do about what happened during the day. If they ask, “Is there something you think I can do?” and the provider has ideas, be open to hearing that as long as they also provide positive reinforcement other than “Your kid kid stole all these markers.” Your provider might have feedback, like, “Maybe early bedtime tonight if you can. Maybe the kids will eat cereal for dinner tonight and go to bed at 7.” 

Sometimes you gotta say “It was a rough day. We all have ‘em. Kids have ‘em.” Even before COVID I used to give my kids their own PT days and occasionally parents and teachers judge me. I have the luxury that they can stay home, but if I can and they need that, they have gone to school late because they needed to sleep in. Just give your kids a break because they are going to have bad days sometimes. We’re just trying to have a good day tomorrow.”


Take control: Start a Giving Circle

While I have you:

After last year it’s very, very tempting to turn away from political news — there is a certain sense of unclenching as the 2020 election and the pandemic both recede. But, not to get you all anxious again, things are not fine. Just look to the Texas abortion law, the voting rights bill, the frightening number of people in denial about the election results, and the folks walking away from school boards because they (understandably) don’t care to need a police escort to their cars as thanks for their volunteer work. 

Election fatigue is real. Mental health is incredibly important. But don’t discount the political power that regular people like us can either still wield or surrender. There was a recent editorial about Virginia and the enthusiasm gap:

Almost half of women in four crucial swing states — Arizona, Georgia, Pennsylvania and Wisconsin — are paying less attention to politics since Mr. Trump left office... This includes 46 percent of Biden voters — particularly those who are younger, are college educated or are urban dwellers. 

I am reading political news less, on Twitter less because I can’t deal with the loudmouths, bullies and conspiracy theorists who see an inch and take a mile, the if-it-bleeds-it-leads news. But I haven’t checked out. Something I’ve been doing since last year is leading a Giving Circle for the States Project (formerly the Future Now Fund.) While it’s hard to make a dent in federal elections, it doesn’t take much to help state elections—and state elections are incredibly influential. 

The States Project is looking for additional leaders to start their own circles—I hope you consider starting your own. Don’t be scared. You don’t need to aim to raise a ton of money, possess some A-list network, show up for things you don’t want to or learn anything complicated. You can go all in and learn all the details about your election if you’re a wonky type, or you can do what I did and spend an hour or less each week doing little more than sending emails and posting to social media—stuff you probably do anyway. I bet the emails you write to your friends will be a lot simpler and less hysterical than those “I’m worried, Claire” emails we all get bombarded with after donating to larger elections. 

You can learn more and easily start your own circle here, or contact Melissa Walker at melissa@statesproject.org. Melissa is a working mom and a witch and never made me feel like I had to commit to anything I didn’t want to and double-checked my work for me when I didn’t feel confident (in fact, I am happy to share my email templates with you so you can simply further and just cut and paste.) I never felt like any question was dumb. Trust me, if I can do this, so can you. 

Thanks for reading this far. We have more power than we know. I will leave you alone now (temporarily, anyway.)


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