This week is Parent Teacher conference week so this is so helpful and timely. We had a really upsetting (to me, my kid's fine, lol) conference in November and I basically followed none of this advice and glad to have it now. It might be kind of too late for this teacher and this school year but it's good to know so many other parents have dealt with these kinds of situations.
This situation doesn't apply to me (or hasn't yet 🤞🏻) but I just want to say thank you for diving deep into topics that I'm not hearing about anywhere else. Evil Witches is always like talking to my girlfriends: useful, helpful, reassuring, often hilarious, and a much-needed reminder that I'm not alone / a bad mother / the progenitor of monsters. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.
This topic came right on time as I sit drowning my mom guilt in the largest bowl of Frosted Flakes I could manage. The “I don’t want to go’s” and the “but I will miss you’s” were strong this morning.
I needed this a lot. My kid is on the waiting list for a therapeutic preschool and waiting for a teacher who actually understands neurodiverse kids is really really hard. Yesterday I got a "your problem child is repeatedly stripping naked in front of his peers" email. But literally no one at the school apparently connected his stripping naked with our ongoing efforts to potty train a kid with limited expressive speech. (also his pants were too loose. maybe try tying the drawstring?)
And in that discussion I found out they were taking his lovey away when he wasn't compliant instead of praising him when he was compliant with requests. Because apparently "punishing" is "positive reinforcement" when you do it in a gentle voice. I am just a bundle of upset and anger and really attempting to not just reactionarily pull my kid from this preschool that we're sending him to for the express purpose of socialization despite his father being a SAHD. Because if they're shaming him and stressing him out? Then he can watch Luca and Encanto with his father every day for 2 months until we can go somewhere helfpul....
Oh this is making me so sad. Our kid had a shit preschool teacher who would steadily march towards having milk taken away from our son after school (his favorite) and wasn't private about it either so when we would pick him up other kids would say "J-- had a bad day!!" I hope you find a school that can work with him better and also is better at communication because that is a shit email to get. Just absolutely tanks your day as a parent and that affects the kid too.
are you in my email? because my kid's teacher just emailed to say that he was a dick to a sub and also ed techs at lunch ("you're not the boss of me" type behavior). also, this is the first time we've ever heard from his teacher, like at all, aside from one PTC in the fall. this school year can jump right into the ocean!
This was so helpful! I can relate to the person whose daughter struggled in kindergarten. I am also in the same boat with my son. I also didn’t know that boys generally get punished way worse than girls. This is terrible as we know that girls can be just as cruel and mean as boys in school! Thanks for bringing this out into the light.
It's so tricky because we are also aware of the ways girls are passed over in school etc and don't want to dip into that "boys will be boys" territory but there are behavioral/learning/maturing differences that are real. Thank goodness for the educators out there who are good at differentiating.
This week is Parent Teacher conference week so this is so helpful and timely. We had a really upsetting (to me, my kid's fine, lol) conference in November and I basically followed none of this advice and glad to have it now. It might be kind of too late for this teacher and this school year but it's good to know so many other parents have dealt with these kinds of situations.
I think this was a really rough year for a lot of teachers, admin and kids, in some ways harder than last year.
This situation doesn't apply to me (or hasn't yet 🤞🏻) but I just want to say thank you for diving deep into topics that I'm not hearing about anywhere else. Evil Witches is always like talking to my girlfriends: useful, helpful, reassuring, often hilarious, and a much-needed reminder that I'm not alone / a bad mother / the progenitor of monsters. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.
This topic came right on time as I sit drowning my mom guilt in the largest bowl of Frosted Flakes I could manage. The “I don’t want to go’s” and the “but I will miss you’s” were strong this morning.
make it a double <3 here's hoping the end of day reports are heartening.
I needed this a lot. My kid is on the waiting list for a therapeutic preschool and waiting for a teacher who actually understands neurodiverse kids is really really hard. Yesterday I got a "your problem child is repeatedly stripping naked in front of his peers" email. But literally no one at the school apparently connected his stripping naked with our ongoing efforts to potty train a kid with limited expressive speech. (also his pants were too loose. maybe try tying the drawstring?)
And in that discussion I found out they were taking his lovey away when he wasn't compliant instead of praising him when he was compliant with requests. Because apparently "punishing" is "positive reinforcement" when you do it in a gentle voice. I am just a bundle of upset and anger and really attempting to not just reactionarily pull my kid from this preschool that we're sending him to for the express purpose of socialization despite his father being a SAHD. Because if they're shaming him and stressing him out? Then he can watch Luca and Encanto with his father every day for 2 months until we can go somewhere helfpul....
Oh this is making me so sad. Our kid had a shit preschool teacher who would steadily march towards having milk taken away from our son after school (his favorite) and wasn't private about it either so when we would pick him up other kids would say "J-- had a bad day!!" I hope you find a school that can work with him better and also is better at communication because that is a shit email to get. Just absolutely tanks your day as a parent and that affects the kid too.
are you in my email? because my kid's teacher just emailed to say that he was a dick to a sub and also ed techs at lunch ("you're not the boss of me" type behavior). also, this is the first time we've ever heard from his teacher, like at all, aside from one PTC in the fall. this school year can jump right into the ocean!
My 6 year old was doing "yo momma" comebacks to the principal earlier this year. THE PRINCIPAL. I was at a complete loss.
Lol to be fair that is evergreen material
This was so helpful! I can relate to the person whose daughter struggled in kindergarten. I am also in the same boat with my son. I also didn’t know that boys generally get punished way worse than girls. This is terrible as we know that girls can be just as cruel and mean as boys in school! Thanks for bringing this out into the light.
It's so tricky because we are also aware of the ways girls are passed over in school etc and don't want to dip into that "boys will be boys" territory but there are behavioral/learning/maturing differences that are real. Thank goodness for the educators out there who are good at differentiating.