Funny story: when my first was born, I was living in Manhattan and working at a law firm where all the other new moms instructed me that I absolutely MUST NOT come back to work after my maternity leave without sleep training my baby. I was also in a "moderated mom's group" at a local community center which I joined to get out of the house once in a while, and which I did not realize at the time was specifically an "attachment parenting" group. Welp. The meeting after I have successfully sleep-trained my son with some pretty hard-core CIO, I proudly announced this in group and was met with the coldest stares I have ever experienced. (But two of the other moms approached me outside after to ask how I did it...)
As mom to twins, can confirm that your kids are who they are and your parental interventions in so many of these areas make very little difference. I used the same strategies with both as infants (CIO at 6 months, strict nap schedule, bottle fed, potty trained at the same time) and they are SO DIFFERENT now as tweens. If I had it to do over again, I would do the same and worry less about it.
Funny story: when my first was born, I was living in Manhattan and working at a law firm where all the other new moms instructed me that I absolutely MUST NOT come back to work after my maternity leave without sleep training my baby. I was also in a "moderated mom's group" at a local community center which I joined to get out of the house once in a while, and which I did not realize at the time was specifically an "attachment parenting" group. Welp. The meeting after I have successfully sleep-trained my son with some pretty hard-core CIO, I proudly announced this in group and was met with the coldest stares I have ever experienced. (But two of the other moms approached me outside after to ask how I did it...)
Sooo, you can't just lock the baby in a crate in another room, ala with a puppy? Kidding kidding kidding. Childless witch here, obviously.
As mom to twins, can confirm that your kids are who they are and your parental interventions in so many of these areas make very little difference. I used the same strategies with both as infants (CIO at 6 months, strict nap schedule, bottle fed, potty trained at the same time) and they are SO DIFFERENT now as tweens. If I had it to do over again, I would do the same and worry less about it.