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Oct 28, 2020Liked by Claire Zulkey

The whole big picture of men not taking responsibility for birth control has made me furious my whole life (I’m pushing 70!). Our societal assumption that pregnancy and childbirth is just a thing women do, as though there are no medical consequences involved, is bizarrely ignorant male-dominant horseshit. The total MENTAL/PHYSICAL disconnect men often seem have about somebody messing with their balls vis-a-vis the consequences of pregnancy and childbirth Is monumentally f**ked up. A college-educated suburban man my husband worked with, who had two kids (sons) of his own, was fond of saying that girls ought to have kids as they started menstruating, you know, because they’d be young and healthy.... so...

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Oct 28, 2020Liked by Claire Zulkey

This is a very sore spot/topic for me. Younger witches take note - if you're going to have a c-section, and are sure you're not going to have any more kids - just ask your doc to take care of it then - because you'll most likely be taking care of it one way or another.

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Not a mother, by choice, and having a husband with a vasectomy is such a blessing. No BC for 16 years = Bliss.

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Love this and feel it keenly. I asked him for a vasectomy for years, which he never did. Turns out, he just wanted kids with someone else.

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